

Bertha Emma Freudenstein Carter (1889-1993) was my great aunt. She was also the moral center of our family the entire time I was growing up. Born the eldest of six children, she only made it through the fourth grade. Her handwriting always looked like that of a fourth grader, but it never stopped her from sending letters and cards to her family and loved ones on every occasion. While I was in the army in Vietnam, she sent me packages of cookies, with a note and a few Oral Roberts religious pamphlets. She was an avid Oral Roberts fan and watched him every week on her 14-inch black-and-white television.
She and her husband Alonzo "Curt" Carter married in 1907 and homesteaded a dairy farm near Mount Rainier; they ran it almost until Curt died in 1951. Aunt Bertha never had children of her own but was surrogate mother to dozens of us, especially the children of her brothers and sisters. After Curt died, she sold the farm and, even though she was then in her 60s, she opened what today we would call a board-and-care home for the elderly. She operated it until she was well into her 70s, cooking three meals a day for as many as 10 people, doing massive amounts of laundry, and cleaning -- always cleaning. Until 1965, she drove the 1940 Ford V-8 that Curt had bought brand new while they were living on the farm. But by the mid-1960s, she had decided she needed a new car with automatic transmission. So she traded the Ford in on an American Motors Rambler, four-door with push-button radio and electric windshield wipers. (If only I had been smart enough to buy that Ford from her back then. It only had 60,000 miles on it in 25 years of driving, and the original grey-green paint and felt upholstery were still in good condition. Sigh.)
Aunt Bertha would pull up to our house, usually on a Saturday morning, just to see how we were doing. She'd usually bring us something she'd baked or picked out of her garden. Her baked goods weren't the most elegant, but they were always tasty. My mother, however, wouldn't let us eat her pies because she used lard in the crusts. Mother also tossed out a lot of the apples Aunt Bertha brought because they were too bruised from falling off the tree. Bertha never wasted anything.
She was very religious, but in a way that I wish more people would be today. She attended two different churches, one in the city and one out in the country where she used to live on her farm. She never preached or proselytzed. Instead, she showed what she believed by what she did. She cared about people and didn't judge them. She laughed with us when we were happy, grieved with us when we were sad. When my dad died at the age of 47, she was a rock of strength for my mother, sister, brother and me. She had a big painting of Jesus on her wall everywhere she lived -- the Euro-centric kind that showed him with light brown hair and blue eyes. But she never spent any of her precious time trying to convert others. You just knew what she believed. This is the kind of faith I have tried to have. I hope I measure up to her example.
She never stopped doing or caring. Very late in life, when she was too frail to be helpful to others any longer, she grew increasingly impatient with God. She really wanted to leave this life and get on with the next. It took longer than she wanted it to, but she endured the wait and called it the price she had to pay. She died in 1993 at the age of 104.
Two of my most treasured possessions today once belonged to Aunt Bertha. When she was well into her 90s, she began giving away her possessions to those she loved. When I paid her a visit one afternoon, she told me what she wanted me to have. She walked over to her old curio cabinet and took out a tarnished silver cup and saucer. Her father brought it back for her when she was 10 years old from his time as a failed prospector during the Yukon gold rush of 1898. She had kept it all those years, and decided I should have it now because I was interested in history.
My other prized possession from Aunt Bertha is a Packard-Bell table radio in a red bakelite case. For years, it sat on her kitchen counter. She would listen to music and the news while she cooked. When I got it, it had been stored by my mother for years and no longer worked. Fortunately, I found a man while we were living in Dallas who repaired old tube-style radios. Today, Aunt Bertha's radio plays just fine. While I cook or wash dishes, I listen to it. It's usually tuned to KIXI-AM in Seattle, which plays music of the 40s, 50s and 60s. And when I hear a tune by Tommy Dorsey, Jo Stafford, Frank Sinatra or Ella Fitzgerald, I smile.